Edmonds Beauty: Are we really attractive to the opposite sex?
By Aygin Ghorbani
Everyone likes to claim they dress for themselves, or at least most say that they do.
We tell ourselves “I just love wearing heels that I can’t walk in.”
“I swear, even though it LOOKS like I can’t walk in them,” we say, “trust me, all this is worth is because I am doing it for myself. After all, beauty is pain.”
Let’s face it: Most of us, at least some of the time, are dressing to attract the opposite sex. It’s just how our minds work! Sure there is the saying “You look good, you feel good,” but it’s more than that.
There’s a warm feeling when someone says you look nice that day, or keeps looking over at you. Don’t get me wrong, appearance is nothing compared to what’s on the inside. Personality is first and foremost! Not to forget a sense of humor and intelligence, but once we see that a person has everything we’re looking for – we can’t help but to look at the overall picture. This is where things can get tricky, so…what should you be wearing when you’re trying to attract the opposite gender?
Let’s start off with the fellas.
Guys, girl’s don’t like it when you wear clothing that is two sizes too big or two sizes too small. Meaning no low pants!
I don’t know where or when boys got the idea that wearing your pants down to your knees will help you get a girl. Seeing your boxers is a no-no for me.
Sweatpants seemed to also be a miss, followed up with sandals and shorts in the winter. It’s always cold in Washington. So when winter comes around, why do you feel obligated to put on a summer outfit. That is equivalent to a girl wearing a skirt in the freezing cold.
Don’t get me wrong; while you guys have some major turn-offs, there are some turn-ons as well.
Good hygiene is one of them. Having good breath, smelling nice, having good communication and having a hobby are all turn ons!
When you sing, play an instrument or play a sport, it tells us that something keeps you busy, and we like it! We don’t want to know that you have TOO much free time.
We want to know that you’re interested in taking care of yourself and what you love to do in your spare time before you take care of us.
It’s sounds silly, but it’s true! Also, don’t be too over-protective of your girl, or the one you’re trying to get to know better. A little bit is nice, sending us the message that you care, but an overload of it also can tell us that you’re a psycho.
Moving onto girls.
The biggest turn off to me is worn-out UGG boots and leggings. That drives me crazy.
Girls don’t really wear jeans anymore because they’re uncomfortable; however, that does NOT mean it is OK to wear see-through leggings that are extremely thin. The purpose of those leggings is to wear with a tunic; a long shirt or blouse. Don’t take advantage of them because they’re comfy by just wearing them with a sweatshirt! It’s not cute for every single body part to be put on display.
Ladies, mystery is sexy!
Who ever said wearing a revealing, tight piece of clothing is the way to get a guy’s attention wasn’t referring to his heart. Like Marilyn Monroe once said, “Your clothes should be tight enough to show you’re a woman, but loose enough to show you’re a lady.”
As far as the UGG boots go, you should take care of every pair of shoes that you have, no specifically just your UGGs. If they’re worn out terribly, have stains and holes all over them, it’s time to let them go. I know they’re comfy, I wear them myself; all I am saying is that if you love something, you will take care of it. Once you do, it will last you a long time.
Instead of leggings, try black thick pants, I personally own Zella’s. Zella is an active wear clothing line. Zella’s fit yoga pants are made for girls to wear to work, school and everywhere else. They are tight, warm, thick and they look like pants! While they may be a bit pricey, you can find them at Nordstrom in the active wear department for $52.
I know the price isn’t the best, but trust me – take care of them like your UGG boots and they last for YEARS! Pair that up with a loose blouse, some Steve Madden boots, a fun colored scarf and not to forget to mention, a pea-coat and you should be good to go!
Just like the guys, smell nice! Don’t forget to put on lotion or perfume for a little boost.
While men and women may seem like two completely different people from two separate worlds, there are a lot of things that we have in common.
We both should take care of our own personal hygiene, be humorous, know when we are being clingy, and don’t flirt with other people, especially when we’re in a relationship or talking to someone that we’re interested in. Also, we don’t want to scare the other person off. Being intimidating is a good thing. It shows that you follow your own path and have a good head on your shoulders, but that doesn’t mean to always stay that way. It’s nice to back down and be the first for something, maybe even when it comes to asking them out or by simply sitting next to them. If you know you’re intimidating and are using it against them, they’ll start to think you’re cocky and your world only consists of you and no one else. Don’t scare them off by seeming too hard to get; learn to have a balance.
Having a pure, genuine heart is what truly matters. Being funny, comfortable, knowing how to take a joke, and overall intelligence about the general things in life are something we all need to have.
Your physical appearance shouldn’t be your world, it should only be a bonus. No one is to say that you can’t be your own person or have your own style. Everything varies. It depends on your age and gender.
We all make mistakes. We say things we don’t mean, wear things we shouldn’t, but that only proves that we’re human. It’s in our nature.
It’s just fun to know what the other gender truly thinks. While you get ready to go out on a date, or even get ready for school, you should always remember to take care of yourself and recognize that without confidence, you can’t pull anything off.
Aygin Ghorbani is a 2012 graduate of Meadowdale High School, where she wrote a beauty column for the high school newspaper. Aygin is attending Edmonds Community College and plans to transfer to the University of Washington.