I hope you aren’t familiar with that moment when the news of an unexpected death hits you. When you feel like the floor has been yanked out from under your feet and an unknown force just sucker-punched you in the gut. And you start hoping like a madwoman that what you have been told is just a terrible mistake or a twisted joke.
Inevitably in life, we all face this moment.
What happens next varies. Some of us spring into motion because helping or “doing” feels at least semi-useful. Others retreat into solitude to grieve privately. Friends come out of the woodwork as the news starts to spread. It’s always amazing to see how many people one life can touch, especially now with the power of the Internet.
One wake-up call that the death of a friend—especially a vibrant and joyful person like the friend I just lost—gives you is that the stupid cliché is true: Life is too short. And you don’t know what could be just around the corner.
Mend fences. Forgive. Share hugs, laughter, and joy when you can. As much as you can. Let love be the legacy you create for yourself and those around you.
Rest in peace, Jimmy. We love you.
Kelsey Foster is a dating and relationship coach in Edmonds. She is released a new book titled Improve Your Love-itude available on Amazon. Find out more information about Kelsey on her website www.kelseyfoster.com or join her on Facebook.