Travels with Charlize, in search of living alone

Charlize taking in a view at Zion, ears up, paying attention.
Charlize taking in a view at Zion, ears up, paying attention.

By Dr. David Gross

Part 22: Home

Charlize doesn’t know we’re home. For over a month, at 6:30 or so each morning, she pressed her cold nose on my cheek and uttered a soft whine to get me up. I let her out and then get on with whatever the day has in store. We wandered for over a month, asking questions without answers but gradually discovering that decisions can be made unilaterally after almost 53 years of collaborating with Rosalie. Of course, I discuss everything with Charlize but she has yet to voice a comprehensible opinion, except for exuberant enthusiasm for walks and playing ball.

I went through 39 days of accumulated mail, paid the overdue bills I couldn’t identify online, and restocked the refrigerator. Now what? During my travels I rekindled some old friendships; now I have to work at keeping them viable and active, and that will require both time and effort.

Frog needs some repair and renovation to improve her ability to travel rough roads. I was disappointed with how she responded to the rough spots we hit along the way. They are just minor things. She needs improved access to the storage space under the bed, clasps on cupboard doors and drawers to prevent them from coming open when I hit a bump in the road, a method of keeping the table from sliding and banging around loose and into the corner of the cupboard and the refrigerator. I should be able to get her in good shape for our next adventure planned for May, a trip to visit Don and Susie on their ranch in the Sandhills of Nebraska.

I also have my writing projects, including a novel, PSILOCYBE DREAMS, that I just finished editing for — I hope — the last time. Now I have to start submitting it to agents and publishers.

I am starting a new project that I am very excited about: Samuel Ha-Nagid was born near the end of the 10th Century. He was a Rabbi who wrote poetry of love and God and wine and war in both Hebrew and Arabic. Some of his poetry survives today. He became the Caliph of Cordoba’s right hand, his Viser, his Chief-of-Staff, the General of his armies. He was never defeated on the field of battle. They were a team, a Muslim ruler and a Jew in a time of enlightenment, education, literacy and tolerance that lasted over 300 years. What happened? There’s a story to be told and a trip to Cordoba, Spain for research.

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David GrossAfter his losing his wife of 52 years to cancer, Dr. David Gross has embarked on an extended road trip with his new dog, Charlize, and is writing about his experiences.

  1. Welcome Home It’s been fun to read about your travels and transition. ! Please write again on your next adventure.

  2. Coming home can be much harder than leaving it at times, but with Charlize at your side
    I’m sure she is panting for the next adventure with you.
    I wish you luck with editing the novel, I know the task at hand.
    What does Charlize have to say about that trip to Cordoba? Having had a dog once, I think I know the answer!

    Thank you,
    Ingrid Wolsk

  3. Welcome home, Dr Dave. Thanks for choosing to write about your travels and publish them in myedmondsnews.
    All the best,

  4. Thanks to everyone for their kind comments. Next week Charlize and I are heading for the Sandhills of Nebraska where we will spend some time with old friends who own a ranch there. Maybe we can all learn something about the ranching life at Pass ranch, 40 miles from the closest town which, the last time I looked it up, had just over 400 residents. They live in the boondocks! Keep watching for our posts.

  5. Dr Gross:
    That was some adventure, thank you for sharing. I am sorry for your loss but excited for what you have in store for the 4th quarter.
    It gave many of us joy to follow you.

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