Socially Single: Holiday survival guide for singles

Kelsey Foster

This week marks the official start to the holiday season, although it appears that we fast-forwarded to Christmas at the stroke of midnight on Halloween. The season is full of cheer, merriment, family meals, and fun parties. And it can also be a giant drag when you are single and it feels like every invite comes with a +1.

Here’s my advice to not only survive this next month but actually enjoy it!

1. Don’t hibernate
Yes, crawling under a cozy blanket and having a date with Netflix and hot cocoa may sound divine. However, it can increase your feelings of loneliness and isolation. So definitely plan to attend some of those holiday parties. If your company shindig comes with a +1, why not bring a good friend with you? Get dressed up, then hit the town after. Also, check out sites like for singles groups. There are tons of events these groups organize this time of year, from tree lightings, to happy hours, to full-blown swanky holiday parties. Get out and enjoy the season with some like-minded new friends!

2. Have an answer for nosy family members
Every singleton has a family member who asks annoying questions like “when are you getting married and having babies? why are you single? you better meet someone or you’ll die alone!” The answer you want to give them may include curse words. Rather than let yourself get worked up, you can opt to just nod in agreement and then move along. Or a simple “I haven’t met the right person yet and when I do, I’ll let you know!” works, too. Remember that, while it totally feels like an invasion of privacy, your family member is likely trying to be helpful. She wants to see you happy. Remind yourself of that to keep from seeing red.

3. Give back to the community
One surefire way to get yourself on the gratitude train is to volunteer to help people who are less fortunate. Serving holiday meals, collecting toy donations, spending some time at the food bank, or buying a few gifts from a giving tree are all ways to fill your heart with warm fuzzies. There are many people who are struggling to just have food on the table this year. Taking time to help other people feels wonderful and has a positive impact. There are so many agencies and organizations who rely on volunteers in our area. Check for a list of local places seeking volunteers. You can also call churches and schools to see if they having giving trees or other ways to help.

Cheers to enjoying the holiday season!

— By Kelsey Foster

Kelsey Foster is a dating and relationship coach in Edmonds. She released a new book, “Improve Your Love-itude,” available on Amazon. Find out more information about Kelsey on her website or join her on Facebook.

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