Can we have some courtesy and restraint on the My Edmonds News comment board. Please?
Sometimes we all see ideas with which we disagree. There are two options: respond to the idea, perhaps with a counter suggestion; or put the offending party on “Ignore.” Some will say that the latter is strangling the free exchange of ideas, but if all you can do when someone posts a thought you don’t like is to degrade the person, then clearly ideas are not being exchanged. Do us all a favor and hit “Ignore.” We don’t need your squabbling — it gets us nowhere, it distracts from the matter at hand, and it bogs down any progress toward solutions.
The recent exchange over the housing plan is a very good case in point: Some posters addressed the ideas or the process, or offered some insights and ideas, or provided information. Some used irony vis-à-vis Edmonds and the process, and that’s okay too. irony is a legitimate way of expressing one’s reaction.
But then the “conversation” descended into squabbling. “Lots of virtue signaling going on here” is like calling the other person’s information “fake news.” It poisons the wells, it hurts, and it is meaningless: anything you say can be called “fake news” or “virtue signaling” if I don’t like it — but it’s not an argument — it’s an assertion. Do you mention driving a hybrid? Virtue signaling. Did I mention the work my church does for the homeless? Virtue signaling. Let’s agree not to use this vacuous and demeaning phrase. It has no place in rational discussion.
The “conversation” got worse, with “advice” about how Mr. Wright should use his house — which is none of anyone’s business — and accusations of being “bitter and sanctimonious. I wonder why?” — which is judgmental and patronizing, far more apt to hurt than to enlighten.
Edmonds is a small community. It is growing fast, and many of us are concerned by the speed and direction of development. But we are a community, and that means we either commit to working together, to mutual respect, to restraint — or we devolve into just one more squabbling playground of children more intent on scoring points on each other than on finding solutions. Such self-discipline can be hard work, but the opposite leads nowhere but down.
The Edmonds I grew up in has always had problems and issues. But there are more of us now, things are changing, and they are changing fast. With bickering and strife in the cockpit, with feelings hurt and accusations flying, a safe landing is endangered. And all of us are in the airplane.
Let’s calm down and exercise self-discipline, courtesy, and restraint. And if you don’t like what I’m saying, hit the “Ignore” button. It will save us both a lot of stress.